During this month of February, romance and love become hot topics so I will add my perspective on the spiritual path to romance and love. First, let me state that I believe at this juncture in history it is purposeful to be in your ‘right’ relationship. But, what does that mean?
Our history with relationships has changed so much over time. At one point, romance was purposeful to bring forth the opportunity to marry, provide safety and security for a woman, and to create a family. For a man it was often to have domestic help, someone to raise his children, or to look stable in the eyes of their corporate colleagues. Arranged marriages were common to find the appropriate fit and especially useful when keeping wealth in a family or build an empire.
But, as time progressed, relationships were established more out of a desire to love and be in partnership with the someone who resonates with the personality and soul. But, what does that mean? As safety and security became less of a requirement, the desire for a relationship based on love became more desirable.
As a single, romantic, the desire for love was always attractive. But, how do you know when you meet the right person? How do you know what genuine love is when young? How easy it is to confuse physical attraction with a true heart-felt experience. And, what would make the relationship last?
Now, that I have been a spiritual healer for many years addressing the subject with love often, I now have come to some very basic conclusions. Hopefully, my experience will provide some useful insights to attracting the right relationship from a spiritual perspective.
First, I would like to say that you can attract a person to you intentionally using the Law of Attraction by getting clear on what you want, the type of person and attributes you want, etc. If you want to attract that person and the dynamics you may list on a pad of paper, you will find you can attract that person almost effortlessly if you are clear within. I’ll elaborate. Your subconscious holds your memories of all relationship history and has the programming that attracts what you actually receive. If there is incongruence with what you want and what you get, looking at what is stored within the subconscious is key here.
When we do that in a session, I then clear the cause of the incongruence after identifying it within the subconscious using spiritual healing. We often include those lifetimes of arranged marriages, past-life relationship failures and divorces, and challenges in romance, love, relationships, etc. I will give you one example when clearing my own past lives on the subject. I was a man in another life and when married, ended up supporting my wife and her entire family and suffered an unexpected economic hardship. There was a part of me that didn’t wan to repeat that path and, therefore, had a block to marriage from that negative memory.
Every past relationship can have an influence on your current relationship success. By clearing the negative memories and experiences, you set yourself free to not repeat the past as well as not block relationships based on fear.
Now, I will digress a bit. Before coming to the planet, your high self, together with your guides and God, decide what karma you will work out, how you will serve and what parts you will play with others in your soul group. Often you are choosing your romantic relationships at this time and what you are intending for them is significant.
The Relationship Purpose
Some relationships are created to work off karma with an issue or a person. Some because you are helping that individual or being help by them. Then there are those who are chosen because they are meant to walk a particular path and share a specific mission or shared goal. Some relationships can have an element of each.
These relationships are coordinated by Heaven and the ascended masters and angels will assist in bringing these people together.
Some of the most challenging relationships that don’t last may have served a greater purpose, especially if you learned a lesson along the way. If it was purely karmic, the karmic debt may have been paid and ended a relationship successfully completing that intended goal.
If, however, it is approached only from the human standpoint of the relationship worked out or ended, then the individuals may not have felt the relationship was successful. And, it could have been the most spiritually successful relationship because it met it’s purpose. The problem lies in knowing when a relationship has served it’s purpose or it was a failure due to mistakes made within the relationship. Everything can be a learning experience and experience gained can improve all future outcomes.
Healing Relationship Issues
When people come to me for healing relationship issues, I look at their past lives together to clear them to help elevate their experiences. When you clear the past, you can change the future more effortlessly.
Are there unmet expectations? Some come into relationships trying to meet the examples set by their upbringing and they may not even be innate to who they are on a soul level. By clearing parental, ancestral, cultural, and societal programming, we set the people free to know what is their true heart’s desire.
Recently clearing gender roles has become significant. Now that we are moving into a new era of the divine feminine, it is bringing up a whole new set of criteria to clear to rebalance the masculine and the feminine. The old standards aren’t relevant any longer, but the programming negating that needs to be cleared to set all free from the past. These potentially unrealistic and inappropriate expectations negatively influencing relationships these days must be eliminated to open new possibilities for all.
Understanding Your Preferences
I remember years ago clearing with someone I met in Los Angeles that I didn’t even think I could ever resist. Upon clearing a past life with this man, I realized that I had been stuck in a past-life program that caused me to only be attracted to a certain type. Once I cleared the past connection, I immediately lacked interest in him. I was also became attracted to a wider variety of men who didn’t fall into the stereo type I had at the time.
Law of Attraction
You can be successful using manifestation techniques frequently taught by experts in the Law of Attraction. I was certainly successful at that. I remember putting out to the universe a short list of qualities and the guy who fit the list showed up at my door two days later. Another time I had a list of 112 qualities and the man took a little longer to appear but had 99 of that list. In either case, however, those relationships didn’t last long although I was successful in my ability to attract what I thought I was desirable.
A Match Made in Heaven
Then I decided that intellectually I could only see a certain number of issues relating to a man or his potential. So, since then I left my relationships in Heaven’s hands. No one knows me better than God. He knows my purpose and has my life’s blueprint. So, I have entrusted my relationships to him. He brings me who he deems appropriate for my highest and best good as well as theirs.
There may be relationship issues to still clear. If someone has a heart wall up, they can block love. If they are stuck in a stereo type and only want a certain picture, God’s idea may not meet someone’s expectations. If there is fear, it can block the greatest of potential.
Clearing for Love and Money
When I work with the individual who wants to attract love, I make sure they don’t have a heart wall. I clear their past relationship challenges and failures, and especially heal all broken hearts. I actually clear all broken hearts for most clients because even if they are in a relationship, they could be blocking money as we have discovered there is a correlation between previous broken hearts and blocking income.
Could it Be True Love?
God knows the difference between the various types of romantic relationships and their true purpose and if it is true love or not. What I have found is that true love exists within one’s own heart and soul and is there for the reawakening when two people desire to have and are open to a relationship. One must have an open heart to give and receive love. Fortunately, we can clear the issues blocking someone from opening their heart again. But, often it is truly a choice. They must be willing to open their heart. Unless doing so, even the depth of love already there will remain hidden due to past issues keeping them from experiencing that true love.
Fear of Getting Hurt
Fear is often the culprit and gratefully we can clear the cause of fear by clearing the past. But, each person must make the ultimate choice to open their heart or not and take that chance or not.
Observation from Above
I remember the day the ascended masters told me that it was easier for them to help people get money than love. Bringing the right people together can be so complicated especially because of all the baggage they carry within.
As someone who wants to see everyone live happily ever after, it is my mission to help where I can by eliminating their blocks and barriers to experiencing it.
I think the most significant thing I have ever learned is that true love comes from within. If you can establish that, have an open heart, and experience and express that love from within, then you will always have love with or without a partner. True love comes from within and is only available to those who have an open heart. And the purer that heart, the more easily it is to give and receive love.
My Wish for Everyone
Rather than wish everyone finds the right person alone, my greatest wish is for everyone to know what true love is from within. Once true love is discovered and experienced within, they will always have love with or without a partner. And, because love vibrates so high, that state will always attract the highest and best. The only thing that vibrates higher than love is joy. But to have joy, you must first have love. Establish true love within, and you can more easily find joy in all things.
May your life be one of love and joy always.
Joy S. Pedersen, Founder of Express Success LLC, is an intuitive Licensed Spiritual Healer, Certified Spiritual Health Coach, Certified Law of Attraction Practitioner, non-denominational ordained minister and Doctor of Divinity, as well as a noted business consultant and networker with a celebrated international clientele with whom she works over the telephone or Skype.
Archangel Michael, asked her to channel his book, Wisdom of the Guardian: Treasures from Archangel Michael to Change Your Life and join him in a healing practice. Their global healing work to set humanity free is featured in the international best-seller "Clear Your Past and Change Your Future".
She works closely with individuals and businesses of all sizes to identify and clear their hidden challenges with money, relationships, career, business, health and well being. Her work includes clearing negative memories, emotions, and beliefs, as well as past lives, property, travel, darkness, curses and karma.
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